Asher
My name is Asher Chelder, and I am a trans-Jew.
Throughout my academic journey, from elementary school to high school graduation, I attended pluralistic private Jewish schools on scholarships. Although my schools were located in predominantly Jewish areas, many students from various elementary schools merged into our combined middle and high school (Class of '21).
Pronouns: he/him
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I began exploring my identity at the age of 12, but it wasn't until the summer before my junior year of high school that I officially came out. It took a significant amount of time for me to solidify my identity within myself, as well as with my family and close friends. Furthermore, I was the first person at my school to publicly come out as transgender and request gender-inclusive changes. As our school frequently organized overnight events, I requested to be roomed with other boys. Additionally, I underwent the process of changing my name on documents, rosters, emails, and more.
I was fortunate to have a group of exceptional teachers who provided me with the opportunity to educate my own class and other classes as a guest speaker, sharing my journey. For over two years, I also served as the President/co-President of my school's GSA. However, despite the progress that was made, it didn't come without its share of challenges, stress, and tears. As a GSA, we faced more hurdles and obstacles compared to other clubs. I had to overcome the difficulties posed by unsupportive staff members and encounter questionable 'inclusive accommodations.'
I am immensely grateful for the private Jewish education I received, although it lacked diversity and inclusivity. Nonetheless, even though my transgender experience within the school setting was far from perfect, I am proud to have paved the way for others. If the hardships I endured made the lives of future transgender students even slightly easier, then it was all worth it.
Photo credit: Asher archives
